Gang Rape...

These type of stories always hit me in the gut...  Innocent until proven guilty; but a story that I'm sure has more truth to it than fib.. 

Waterloo is my bubble... I live here, I work here, I focus on my own...  Cause I don't want to be bothered by other people's bullshit... other people's problems.  Forgive me, but I've already given too much of myself to "other people"... 

Waterloo is almost my perfect escape.

But I was not surprised this morning, when I got the news that two dudes I know, or knew of, where charged with the drug-rape of a 23 y/o girl...  News stories state, she was out to met them for career advice - likely wanting to go med school;  as he (the one who was tied to my immediate social circle) and his friend were both doctors...  News stories say, they were out for drinks, she was drugged, dragged back to a hotel & gang raped by the two of them....

I remember this dude... I hated this dude... 'back in the day' this sort of story was not new for this dude...  You would hear stories of him trying to take advantage of girls, slutty ones, drunk ones, even girlfriends/sisters/cousins of his own friends...

'back in the day' I was still affliated with hustling, "gang life"...  I was never big time in my eyes, but was definitely exposed to the like...

Me & My Cousin "Broke Ties" over this dude.... One of my closests friends, was deported by his own family, because of this dude...  MY LIFE changed, because of this dude...  I hated him...

For three years, I didn't speak with my cousin - after I found out they were dating behind my back...  I told her about him... warned her, told her my disgust....  and when the truth was exposed, I had so much disgust in her for lying to me - I had no reason to speak with her anymore...

Before we were like brother & sister (or so I made up in my imaginary head)...  as an only child, sometimes you make a bigger bond in your head with someone, than is really there... It's your need or want, to connect with someone.... to feel that you have someone - there, in your corner.

I toppled this dude once in highschool... and I went out of my way to do it...  It caused tension with my crew, not ever lasting tension; but tension nonetheless..  Me & him engaged in a physical altercation... it was for my deported friend in theory; but really it was for all the disgust I had for him... for mali, for my cousin, for all the girls & stories I had heard in the past...  I was just shear anger & disgust with him...

At the end, after it all... I was told, I got what I wanted.  I got a chance to release my anger - I won that brawl... then I was told my all the respective "crews" to let it go now... the fight was one, issue was solved...

Life moved on...  I continued through highschool, I went on to University, Grad School, my career, my travels...  But now it all rushes back. 

If true (and I place a disclaimer, only because in law you are innocent until proven guilty)...  an innocent girl, affected for the rest of her life, by a dude I have no pleasure towards...

In recent years, he had gone to med school - become a doctor; I had thought he had "cleaned up his act"... I had felt sorry for him, for all the anger & anguish I had for him / towards him...  I thought he had changed..

How fitting that on Family Day, I realize & recognize how important are the Values that are past down to you..