A friend wrote me an email - a long email - when I tried to touch base with them to catch up... The were pulled back & must have had a lot to vent - their last line wrote: "I hope I didn’t bore you too much droning on like this!! I’ve just been in my room all day working on orders... haha jk. And don’t feel obligated to respond to every single thing I wrote, I know it’s a lot!!"
But I couldn't help it - I wrote twice as long, cause everything I could relate to... Attached below for my reference...
hahaha - wow!!! But you know what - I want too!! There so many things you wrote about that I want to touch on!! haha.
Well, first - let me tell you a little story about myself :-) I did my undergrad in Engineering... after 2nd year - I wasn't really cutting it that well... so when I was supposed to go to 3rd year, I dropped out & took a year to do "research" - which was basically my way of taking a time out... It sucked, cause all my friends were moving on - graduating before me, getting great jobs, starting & finishing their masters... I felt like a complete reject - and that they all had everything & I was way, way, far behind!!
I graduated... then decided I wanted to making think about a career in finance or business... I got a great opportunity & it work well .... at least for the first little while... Then trouble hit in the all departments... The girl I was seeing... well, let's just say her words & her actions weren't so straightforward.. (I felt like Sammy from the Jersey Shore) -lol, assuming you watch the show!! :P Work started going to shit - my bosses were fuckin things up - I wasn't happy any more... and I quit my job :
It was a hard, hard time... this was over 3 years ago... and I'm not gonna lie - sometimes, when I am alone - I think back too & feel crappy about it :( - So I try not to do that... Ever since, I've been kind of scared to jump back into a relationship - but that's a whole 'nother mess!! All the dramatic disfunctional relationships I've engaged in from highschool hence forth... to many mistakes made, not enough lessons learnt - and now, I'm too scarred from past bad relationships to be able to move forward...
Back to my career - I decided to take some prereqs for a finance program. I did great; got accepted into a program...
The whole time, my parents were on my case - what are you doing with your life? you have an engineering degree & you don't have a job? what's wrong with you? why are you being such a waste? blah, blah, blah. Why are you switching careers? Look at your student loans!!
After I graduated / as I was in school - the financial crisis hit & they blamed people in my specialization for the crisis... so jobs dried up & disappeared... I tried & I tried... without much success. And at one point, I had given up & was ready to take a one way flight to England - for a fresh start & do whatever it takes to make it!!
Before that could happen... I got an offer in Waterloo (which is where I am now)... And things are going really well so far...
I guess my point is: everyone has their own time... I was the last out of my engineering class to graduate... I was the last of my friends to figure out what I wanted to do... I'm pretty much the only one of my friends who's still single!! lol But eventually, I feel like I found my place...
Parents will bitch an complain - always!! They don't take risks like we do - they question whatever decisions we make... They never see us as stable enough... But you can't let that affect you. You grew up here - you know how society & life work... if you want something, go for it!! Even if that means a whole different career, lots of stress & heart ache from your parents... In the end you / me / we're not old enough that everything is not possible.
(FYI - my mom went back to school at the age of 50!! to get certified in canada to be a vet)... we are young & vibrant!! So DO YOU!! Whatever YOU think is best... don't let anyone else' 'worry' hold you back :-)
I know how you feel - and how much your parents actions must have hurt... When I was searching for a job last year - my mom would ask me: "did you apply to any jobs today?" "how come no one is calling you back?" She would bring me home the classified section of the news paper... It was so insulting... like, as if I didn't know how to search for jobs, as if I wasn't good enough, as if I sat around all day - purposefully wanting to do nothing... it hurt...
But once you achieve what you want - then they will be happy. You will be happy.
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